Yoga for PMS

Here’s one for the ladies! ❤ We’ve all been there. They are so so painful! here is a sequence to help relieve some of your period pains.

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How to Move Forward: An Open Letter to Finding Comfort in Discomfort

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They say that the two of the most stressful things a person can endure are moving and the loss of someone close to you. On September 7th of this year my grandmother, a women whom I loved dearly and will miss eternally passed away. The grief still unfolds new for me everyday, unveiling a new layer of knowing the absence of her presence. Each day it becomes more clear that I can’t pick up the phone to call her, that I will never hear her Brooklyn accent, eat her roast beef, ride with her in the back of her cherry red car, or share my life with her. She was the most amazing listener and the dearest of grandmothers. When she passed, our cousin who lived near her said, “I want you to know that even though you live so far away, she breathed you everyday.” I remember hearing that and thinking to myself, “Wow. What a sacred thing to breathe someone.” To breathe someone, to know that no matter the distance, no matter the situation you are loved by one another. You are held by one another in a way that is as permanent and as impermanent as the breath.

In the coming weeks, I signed a lease with my boyfriend, Josh. We ended up in a beautiful little apartment right off Main St. I knew that it was because of her that we got the place. I just had a feeling: The odds of a college student with no credit and a mother as a second reference with a post-grad swamped with debt made us unlikely candidates. Yet here we are.

The idea of moving in together was not a new one, nor did it come into play silently without any debate. Very early in our relationship I decided moving in with Josh was something I wanted. For eight months I continued to nudge and ask for this move. Finally, Josh said yes. He saw part of him wanted to pursue our relationship in this way and that he needed to get away from his current living situation.

I have never lived with a partner before. Needless to say, everything feels entirely new and not entirely how I thought it would be. Everyday since we’ve moved in I have felt heavy in my heart, feeling as if I broke something that didn’t need to be fixed. I have yearned and yearned for my old room, my old house, and my old roommates, simply for the fact that they were familiar. Last night, my partner looked at me and said, “When are you going to arrive? I feel like I have been living here a week and my roommate hasn’t showed up.”

Crushed by my self guilt and the notion that I am letting him down, I recalled a conversation I had with my mentor earlier that evening. With loving eyes and little detail of my situation she said, “Expectations take you out of the present. You cannot find happiness where expectations lie. Furthermore, you’ve signed a year-long commitment with this person so you need to give it your 100%. By the time your lease is up you will know what you need to do.”

All of this leads up to writing this post this morning. I flashed back to the moment another yoga mentor of mine told me in the most arduous of poses, “This is life, right? It’s so painful and uncomfortable, but it’s all about how you approach it.”

So yes, happenings like death and moving may be some of the most stressful things one can endure, amongst many others. However it is not our circumstances that define our quality of life, but the way we choose to navigate them that counts. I noticed, the most painful things require a great deal of adaptability, for it is great change, I believe, that haunts us most in this life. Still, each day is a choice to stay in Duhka (suffering) or find Dharana (contentment). Finding contentment is a continual practice, one that takes conscious and undivided effort. It begins with showing up in the midst of discomfort and knowing that is shall pass. Knowing that change will change again and it’s all about how you approach it, so you may as well enjoy the ride.

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Dedicated to Shirley Klein Harwood

When Aama Met Josh: A Tailored love

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I met Josh when I was working at my town’s local Co-op. He worked in a nearby shop and came in for his daily cucumber and broccoli. He had the kind of magnetism that made you turn a head when he walked into a room. I remember the first day I saw him, I immediately turned to my co-worker and said, “Who is this person and how can they be in my life?” Sure enough, about a month or two later, we started dating.

At the beginning of our relationship, I brought everything I knew about love to the table: I came with a tool box full of every rom-com, song, poem, TV show, and past relationship I’ve ever seen or experienced. It was like taking this huge block of clay and engulfing him in it. Hoping that something would stick and flatter him. However, as time continued on and feelings began to deepen, our love became more tailored to one another. No longer was it this general, broad, media-bred love, but instead a love that was real. A love that had been whittled and carved to fit what each other need in a partner.

Loving another in this way has given us the room to come to one another when we don’t feel fed by the relationship. Doing this gives us the chance to reflect on our actions and grow as individuals as well as partners. When there is space to be authentic then truth will emerge. Now, this is not to say that we have a relationship where nothing ever goes wrong, but it certainly gives space to express ourselves when things do. It can, in some ways, feel like a trial and error approach. And in some ways it is! The idea is that if something doesn’t work, you throw it out. Let your love be maluable like clay and your patience be the steady and guiding hand. This will surely lead to growth and self discovery through your partner.

Interestingly enough, with this concept love isn’t really a one size fits all. The way I love Josh is different that how I love my mother, my father, my best friend, and very different than how Harry loves Sally because each one is different and fundamentally requires different types of love from me. So I encourage you to share your experiences of love. How do you like to be loved? Have you experienced this in a relationship? Did it work? Did it not? Tell me the way you love or ask questions! I’d love to hear it!

Shanti Prem ❤

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Josh & Aama

Firenze, Italy c. May 7, 2015

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